When people first think about scattering ashes, often what comes to mind is the tossing and dispersing of cremation ashes into the air. This type of ash scattering is called a casting ceremony. People find that the casting ceremony helps symbolize the freeing or letting go of their loved one’s spirit.
We have organized many different versions of a casting ceremony. Some families choose to keep it simple and have one family member scatter the ashes whereas others have each family member release some of the ashes. You can personalize it any manner that you want. For example, families have been known to have a symbolic toast where the ashes are divided up and put into cups for each guest. Then a toast can be said, and everyone can release the ashes in unison.
Also remember to first determine the direction of the wind. It is important to release the ashes downwind so attendees are not in the path of the ashes.
A trenching ceremony is another popular ash scattering ceremony. A trench or hole is dug into the ground and the ashes are scattered inside. At the conclusion of the ceremony, the family covers the trench or hole.
Trenching ceremonies are ideal for those who loved to garden or loved nature. We have had many trenching ceremonies where the trench is dug under a tree or in a flower bed.
Like a casting ceremony, you can get more creative. For example, we have seen trenches dug in the shape of a heart and trenches where the initials of a loved one are spelled out.
A slight variation on the trenching ceremony is a ringing ceremony. A trench is dug in a circle around a tree, flower, or something else of significance. Some families choose to create a memorial at the center of the ring with candles, a picture of the deceased, or some type of memento like a favorite jersey.
A raking ceremony often takes place in large gardens or in flower beds. The ashes are dispersed evenly across a section of soil. Often, we setup the ceremony so that each family takes turns raking the ashes into the soil and as they do so they share a memory of the deceased with the other guests.
Scattering gardens are becoming very popular across North America. Many cemeteries have built beautiful scattering gardens where families can spread their loved one’s ashes alongside other members of the community. These garden areas grow beautiful trees and flowers, have a solemn and tranquil setting, have seating areas for quiet reflection, and are surrounded by plaques and markers.
The possibilities are endless when scattering ashes at sea. One method that most of us have heard of is pouring ashes into the water from a boat. However, this is just one of many ways to have a sea scattering. Another method becoming popular among families is the purchase of biodegradable urns that contain the ashes and prevents them from blowing all over the mourners. These containers float, gradually dissolving, and eventually releasing the ashes. There are many possibilities such as flowers, turtles, shells, and even Viking ships.